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Surprisingly Short Lifespan of Desire
Sexual desire in a long-term relationship often declines on a documented schedule, and the steepest drop lands around year four. That isn't a symptom of a bad relationship. It's a design feature. A woman stopped me in a hotel corridor after a talk once, after the room...
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