“This book breaks the spells we are bound by.”
— Dr. Shefali, Clinical Psychologist & NY Times Bestselling Author
Coming October 2026
Monogamy is the most widely practiced religion most people don't know they belong to.
Beyond monogamy's myths lies something better — Conscious Intimacy — relationships built on genuine desire, mutual truth, and real connection rather than obligation, performance, and fear.
No one’s dared to examine the Consequences of Monogamy (they’re not what you think) - until NOW.
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The Cult of Monogamy
How It's Destroying Our Relationships and Humanity — and the Daring Solution to Save Us All
This book challenges the idea that monogamy is our only natural model for intimacy. It reveals the consequences to our relationships and health when we live misaligned with our sexual biology. It explores how culture shapes our beliefs—and invites us to question them—encouraging a more conscious, personal understanding of love, commitment, and connection.
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of marriages have infidelity
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of divorces are initiated by women
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of marriages result in divorce or deep dissatisfaction
About the Book
Billions of people have inherited a relationship structure they never consciously chose — handed down through religion, culture, law, and repetition so complete it feels like instinct. Science proves that monogamy is not something we evolved to, and it’s not human nature. It’s a cultural invention. Statistics show how we suffer it: soaring divorce rates, epidemic infidelity, and millions of people lying side by side feeling utterly alone.
The Cult of Monogamy makes the case that most relationship suffering comes from living inside a system that is misaligned with human nature in the first place. It further exposes that when millions of people practice a system that conflicts with human nature, the consequences don’t just stay personal—they reshape society, the environment and the future of our species.
Drawing on decades of clinical experience and multidisciplinary cross-cultural research, Dr. Hyman dismantles the myths and conditioning making modern relationships so painful — and replaces them with something far more powerful: the truth about who we actually are, and a daring path forward called Unigamy.
Whether you're in a relationship that works, one that struggles, or searching for one that finally will — this book will change how you see yourself, your partner, and what love is actually capable of.
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What You'll Learn from this book
#1. Understand why your desires, frustrations, and patterns aren't flaws
— they're rooted in evolutionary biology and human consciousness.
#1. Understand why men and women are wired so differently
— and why that difference is a feature, not a flaw.
#3. See monogamy not as a moral truth but as a cultural system
— with a history, an agenda, and a powerful alternative.
#4. Decode what your partner has never been able to articulate
— and meet each other there for the first time.
#5. Move from obligation and performance toward intimacy that's grounded in truth and genuine desire.
#6. Start the conversation your relationship has been waiting for
— with the science and compassion to EVOLVE YOU BOTH.
#7. Leave with a blueprint for love built around who you actually are
— not who you were told to be.
Backed by 270+ peer-reviewed studies across evolutionary biology, psychology, and anthropology — this is not opinion. It's evidence. Explore the research →
Praise for The Cult of Monogamy
"By examining monogamy through the lens of trauma and attachment, Dr. Hyman raises an important question: are our most intimate structures expressions of freedom—or adaptations to early wounding? A courageous and consciousness-expanding work."
Dr. Frank Anderson. Harvard-trained Psychiatrist, Trauma Expert, and Author of To Be Loved
"Our intimate lives are shaped by a complex interplay of biology, conditioning, attachment, culture, and desire. This thought-provoking book invites readers to examine the assumptions we inherit about love and partnership, and to engage in the kind of honest conversations that many couples long to have but rarely know how to begin."
Dr. Laura Berman, Therapist, Sex Educator, and NYT Bestselling Author of Real Sex for Real Women
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The Cult of Monogamy
This book challenges the idea that monogamy is our only natural model for intimacy. It reveals the consequences to our relationships and health when we live misaligned with our sexual biology. It explores how culture shapes our beliefs—and invites us to question them—encouraging a more conscious, personal understanding of love, commitment, and connection.
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- Stanford Biology — Honors
- Harvard Medical School — Honors
- 25+ Years Clinical Practice
- 60+ Countries
About the Author
Dr. Jon Hyman
I didn't set out to write a book about monogamy. I set out to understand human suffering.
After earning my biology degree with honors at Stanford and my medical degree with honors at Harvard, I spent more than twenty-five as an orthopedic surgeon — treating trauma and studying the human body from the inside out. But the questions that kept me up at night were never purely clinical. They were about instinct, desire, identity, and why so many people — intelligent, loving, well-intentioned people — kept finding themselves in the same cycles of pain.
That search took me across more than sixty countries, including time living among Indigenous tribes, studying how humans have formed bonds across vastly different cultures and centuries. It led me deep into evolutionary biology, psychology, and anthropology. And it led me through my own life — as a parent, as someone who has navigated marriage, divorce, and the full complexity of love.
What I found changed everything I thought I knew.
This book is an invitation to see through the illusions we've inherited, reconnect with our authentic nature, and build something far more honest in their place.
My mission is simple: to help people suffer less by understanding who we truly are and by dispelling the myths and pseudoscience around one of the most taboo and provocative topics of our time.
Frequently Asked Questions
About The Cult of Monogamy
What is The Cult of Monogamy about?
The Cult of Monogamy explores the social, psychological, and cultural foundations of monogamy, challenging long-held assumptions about relationships, commitment, and human connection. Dr. Jon Hyman offers a thought-provoking perspective on how modern relationships are shaped—and how they might evolve.
Who should read this book?
This book is ideal for readers interested in relationships, psychology, human nature, and personal growth. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or simply curious about alternative perspectives on love and commitment, this book offers valuable insights.
Is this book against monogamy?
No. The book doesn’t dismiss monogamy but rather examines it critically. It invites readers to understand that it is a cultural invention, not an evolved human trait, and to understand that like all of our creations, it has consequences that are far reaching - like climate change or artificial intelligence.
When will the book be released?
The Cult of Monogamy is scheduled for release in October. Stay tuned for the official launch date and exclusive updates.
Will there be a digital or audiobook version?
Yes, digital formats such as eBook and audiobook versions are planned. More details will be announced closer to the release date.
Is this book backed by research?
Yes! 270+ peer-reviewed studies and sources. View all references →
Why is Monogamy called a Cult?
It is similar to a Cult because via mass propaganda we’ve been conditioned to believe in it, defend it, obey it, and build our identity around it, without ever questioning it. If we dare go against it, we are threatened, cancelled, or punished.
"Read this book with an open heart and an even more open mind. The future of our relationships, and the well-being of our children, depend on it."
— Dr. Shefali —
Clinical Psychologist & New York Times Bestselling Author
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